The Cheating Episode

As you probably know, this season is all about uncomfortable conversations and today’s topic might just take the cake. So let’s jump right in.

Have you ever imagined what it would feel like to have an affair? Have you ever suspected that your spouse might be cheating? Well, you’re not alone.

According to an article by the Institute for Family Studies approximately 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married. But this data widely varies, most likely because people aren’t really comfortable with admitting it. Just Google around and you’ll see reports of more than half of married men engaging in extramarital sex during their marriage. That definitely doesn’t paint of rosy picture of marriage, but more importantly, it gives us an idea of just how hard relationships really are.

Cheating has admittedly been an odd topic for me. Why bother snooping and sneaking around? Why not just break up? Everyone deserves to be happy right, so why can’t we just call a spade a spade and get on with our lives? Of course, we all know it’s much more complicated than that, especially with kids in the mix. So let’s talk about it. Why do people cheat? Is it ever possible to repair our relationship and find happiness together? Let’s find out.

With me today is a guest that we’ve had on the show before and who wow’ed me at such a fever pitch that I had to have her back. Becca Stone is a psychotherapist based in Brooklyn and Philly who works specifically in emotion-focused couple’s therapy, an evidence-based approach to healing relationships grounded in the neuroscience of attachment. She is also a mother of two and works with her husband running their therapy practice.